Share via Email Staceyann Chin: 'You are the chosen one, the messiah, the mandate that pulls her, magnetic, toward her most hidden desires. Maybe women who chase women possess the same rabid ego we despise in straight men, the same ego that makes a person go giddy at the thought of being "the first" for the straight girl in question. The heterosexual terrain of her flesh, untouched by other dyke hands, smacks of the virgin narrative. Who wouldn't want to be "the first"? Who doesn't like what feels like a conquest? A win?
30 Girls Get Real About the Moment They Knew They Weren't Straight
Below, 30 people recall the moments they knew they weren't straight. I also started having what I eventually realized was a crush on a girl at school. Being bisexual can be an odd experience, because it can be very easy to brush aside your own identity for a long time before realizing that you're capable of being in love with more than one gender. It just didn't feel right. I knew my sophomore year of college when I went to a Friendsgiving and saw a female friend of mine dancing.